Your self-trust comeback plan - via rejection

A quick note before I dive into today's newsletter...

Yesterday brought more heartbreaking news of violence in our country. As I write about "rejection resilience" today, I'm thinking about fear - and how it shows up across a massive spectrum.
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The rejection resilience I teach you is about everyday fears - the heart-pounding moment before you send that email, raise your hand in a meeting, or share your truth. But it's all connected to something bigger: the fundamental right to use your voice without fear of retaliation.
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My fight for YOU to speak up, share your ideas, and show up authentically is the same fight I must extend to voices I disagree with - even ones that say things I find abhorrent. Because the moment we decide some voices don't deserve protection, we put all voices at risk.
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The spectrum ranges from "What will my boss think?" all the way to the extreme, violent end we witnessed yesterday. Both involve fear of how others will respond to our voice.
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So as we talk about building rejection resilience today, know that I'm advocating for a world where the worst "rejection" you face is someone saying "no thanks" - not violence, not retaliation, just the normal human experience of disagreement.
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That's the world where your voice can truly make a difference.
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​On that note... here's today's "nudge":​
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Hi Reader,
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I'm in the middle of my Power Pitching Push right now, and there's one exercise that makes everyone groan: creating a Top 100 list of people to reach out to.

EVERYONE hates it. Like, seriously HATES it.

"Do I really need 100 people, Sally?"
"That feels like so many..."
"What if they say no?"

And there it is. The real fear hiding behind the resistance.

Each name on that list represents a potential NO. And we've been conditioned to avoid rejection like it's dangerous.

But here's what I've learned after years of watching brave people build their dreams: Your rejection resilience is directly proportional to how often you go for the no.

The more you ask, the easier it gets.

The people who reach their biggest goals? They're not the ones who never get rejected. They're the ones who collect "no's" like badges of honor.

Because IF YOU'RE TELLING YOURSELF A BETTER STORY ABOUT IT, "no" builds evidence in your Self-Trust Stockpile:

• "I asked and the world didn't end."
• "I survived disappointment and kept going."
• "I learned something valuable for next time."

Please note: If you're NOT approaching your attempts and potential resistance with this attitude, we might mistake each NO to mean something about our worthiness!

You can choose the story.

The no can mean you're brave!

OR

The no can mean you're dumb/wrong/unqualified/don't belong.

My client Jamie used to be terrified of outreach. Now she says, "I'm going for 20 no's this month!" Woo! (Psst! Her speaking business has doubled because she stopped avoiding rejection and started pursuing it!)

This week, ask for something where "no" is likely:

• A discount at your local coffee shop (this sounds terrifying to me!)
• A meeting with someone slightly "out of your league"
• Feedback on an idea from someone whose opinion matters to you

And then tell yourself a powerful story about your bravery. Notice how you survive it. How it's rarely as brutal as your brain predicted. How each "no" makes the next ask a little easier.

Because the path to your dreams isn't paved with perfect yeses—it's built on your willingness to hear "no."

Ready to build your rejection resilience?Download my free Self-Trust Stockpile tracker to document every brave move you make—especially the ones that don't go perfectly. Because that's where real confidence gets built (if you
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Going for the no right alongside you,

P.S. Are you an aspiring and advanced speaker? - Want your own Top 100 sheet to help build your speaking business? Come to my FREE, new training next week called "Backstage Pass". We're going to dive into the 7 essential tools I use nearly EVERY DAY to grow my speaking business to make growth faster and easier. Fewer roadblocks, more impact. See you there?